Sunday, July 23, 2006

my big loud family

Being back with my whole family again is an interesting experience. In some ways, everything is very familiar, and in other ways it feels like I'm in a foreign country adjusting to the culture.

I come from a family where the norm is: loud talking, strong opinions, multiple conversations happening at once in the same room, and sometimes overlapping participants. Yesterday, I realized, that I love that cacophony, and sometimes I miss it. Growing up, I often felt like my family was "dysfunctional" because everyone was always yelling at everyone else. I now realize that it is just the culture of my family. That the loudness doesn't necessarily mean there is a problem, and that underlying it all is love.

At the same time, it is a very interesting experience being back here, and it really does feel like I'm in a totally different culture from how I choose to be. They don't recycle, they shop at Wal-mart, and TV plays a much bigger role in day-to-day living than I'm used to. Yesterday, I kept thinking that I've changed so much, but I realized just now that these are things that always bothered me growing up. so maybe I haven't changed all that much, and neither have they.

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